Vulnerability is something that’s pretty fundamental to our well-being, our ability to deeply connect and inspire others. The problem is, we’re living in a world where being vulnerable and being real feels really dangerous.
If you’re working towards some sort of personal change or towards a particular goal, whether that’s getting fit, improving mental health or even getting a new job there’s a simple concept that can shape the results you get.
Simple but game-changing.
For a brief time yesterday I had a familiar feeling bubble up - something I shared with my coach and had a bit of a laugh about. I thought I’d shoot a video about it because this thing can be a sneaky sucker and it can stop us playing full out in our business, at school, socially, all of it.
This thing is fear of success.
So, did I manage to let go of "I've got to make the most of it" and the expectations that come with holidays and doing something special? Yes and No. Here's what I learnt and what I believe is the secret to success/
Today I’m sharing another behaviour pattern that I’m working on which particularly kicks in when I have a holiday or we’re doing something special.
I can have every intention of being present and enjoying life moment by moment…and then I have the urge to
‘make the most out of it’ ...
I’m right royally in my ‘stretch zone’ and it is sooooo uncomfortable, but I know the only person who can move beyond limiting beliefs and behaviours, passed down generation to generation, is me. Which is why I’m choosing to keep calm(ish) and carry on.
How to see things from a different perspective to improve relationships and calm conflicts.
What you’re watching, reading and listening to on a daily basis really matters.
When we focus on the negative all the time, when we look for what’s wrong rather than what’s right, we’re more prone to feeling negative emotions. We’re more prone to depression and anxiety.
So what can we do about it?
Sharing everyday challenges, when we feel the fear and do it anyway, is key to encouraging our kids to step outside their comfort zone.
What better way to model resilience and a positive mindset than choosing to do something when as an adult you have the option to avoid it!
If you practice something badly, if you practice poor technique, you’ll develop poor technique, right? Well, the same can be said when you use your imagination.
So how can we use our imagination to help rather than hinder us.
We all get stressed and anxious from time to time but learning this simple technique, using our natural neurobiology, can help us switch back into a calm and receptive state whenever we need to. This video shows you how you can teach the whole family to do it and have some fun at the same time. When you've got the hang of it you'll be able to use it on the fly and no one will know you're doing anything at all.
Check out the full blog article here https://medium.com/the-unlimited-club/3-steps-to-help-anxious-kids-and-stressed-parents-5dceb02ec36
It's March and the stack of half-written Xmas thank you cards finally finds its way to the bin, embarrassed and slightly ashamed. That's when I thought enough is enough. Luckily I came across an idea that turned things around.